This is really nicely-written and you sound like a normal, sensible person, which in internet writing is kind of rare.

One thing to point out though: a lot of people live in the middle of nowhere. Not necessarily by choice, but just because they either can’t escape or that’s where life took them.

Some of them may want to get out, go elsewhere, but a lot of them don’t really think about it that much. They’re reasonably content where they are. They work, they raise a family, they watch football, they get older, they become grandparents, they die.

I used to really resent people like that — where is your damn ambition? — but over the past few years, seeing what’s become of cities, and the type of people who’ve flocked to them, I’ve actually grown to respect that way of life a lot more. It seems a little more honorable, more like ‘the way things used to be.’

Cities are fine for brief spells, and for convenience they can’t be beat, but you eventually get to a point where there is more to life than standing in line for the opening of the first Chick-Fil-A in Manhattan.

And so maybe you move to a suburb, somewhere not too far, but not too close either, which is still probably really expensive, really crowded, a little more boring, and probably not nearly as convenient.

What are you left with after that — some small town in the middle of nowhere.

I think it’s the best place to be, actually.

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